Nice: The New Bitchy?

This is a story where Nice turns Bitchy!!!!

I recently invited a friend of mine to stay at my place not expecting she would be the house guest from HELL! OK maybe I'm exaggerating, but she was the closest thing to that!

She stayed here a total of 16 days and as each day drew closer I realized sometimes being too nice can turn you into being too BITCHY!

I pride myself in being nice and understanding because more often than not, I am. Unfortunately when you add a new city + limited furniture + work + house guest + an 8 month year old poodle and a tight budget, i believe the only answer to this equation is SUPER BITCH!

I couldn't tell her anything though. I couldn't explain to her that 40 dollars for a 300 dollar grocery bill was not alright!!

I couldn't tell her that I felt scared for my dog because she constantly left small things that he could choke on around the house!!!

I couldn't tell her that I was scared of coming home to a burned down apartment because she consistently left the stove and oven on!!!!

I couldn't tell her any of this because it was ultimately my fault. Its not that she could not hear these things, but instead it was I who could not say these things to her.

I'm just too nice and too understanding to the point where my anger at myself began to drive me nuts. ALL and I mean every little thing that could bother me, DID!

From her hair in the tub, to her absent mindedness, to her blatant lack of consideration or at least it seemed blatant to me.

I was over her stay and excited for her to leave! I learned a few things while she was here in My LAnd...

a. People need space
b. dogs are sensitive
c. always lay down the law
d. don't drink and make plans you may regret later
e. when it comes to being nice it can bite you in the ass
f. better to acknowledge and move on than holding on and complaining
g. just worry about yourself than once you have that figured out you can worry about others!

She wanted to move here and stay with me for a month. After her trial period I decided this is one time where I had to say NO! Our friendship would probably be over by the end of 31 full days together, in my tiny one bedroom apartment. Nothing is more valuable then my friends and my personal space. These are two things you just cant mix for long periods of times.

Show me someone who can and I can show you thousands of more who can't.

Lesson learned.

Till next time. Lights OUT!